Street Teamer Suwi explores the ideas and motives around abstaining and explores when the time is really right – When you get married? When the time is right? Or just whenever? It is YOUR choice, so just make sure it is when YOU are ready…
Abstinence; the word alone just sends laughter throughout the class. More the males than females of course, but seriously why are people laughing? Try being a guy in university wearing a t-shirt that says: “I’m a virgin and I’m proud”. You’d be the laughing stock of the entire student body. To some, just the fact that you’re a virgin, but probably for the most part, the fact that you’re admitting it – An 18-year-old virgin? What?!
But what don’t you, the virgin, have to worry about a whole lot less? Pregnancy? STI’s? HIV?! I’m not even talking about the emotional and physical effects that sex often has on an individual.
Now not everyone waiting has made the commitment that they want to remain a virgin till marriage. Some simply say that they want to wait until its right, or with the right person. “What exactly does that mean? How does someone even know when it’s right?” I hear you ask. Truth be told, most of the people I know who “waited until it was right” found out that the “its right” was an illusionary time. However, they are definitely better off than those who went by the “everybody’s doing it” thesis.
A friend of mine dated her boyfriend for years before she finally said she was ready to take the plunge and have sex with him. She decided it would be a great 2nd anniversary present to him and waited for the special day to come. When the day arrived, all I can say is that aside from his impatience and frustration at her obvious inexperience, the pain and embarrassment she felt afterwards were not ever a part of her perfect picture at all, in fact, she didn’t know it but that was the last day of a proper relationship. Weeks later she discovered that he had spent the rest of that awful night getting all the satisfaction she had failed to offer in his ex-girlfriend’s bed. So much for waiting until it was right huh?
All I can say is that really when it comes to waiting to lose your virginity, it’s really up to you to decide. No one can tell you when the right time is and no one can predict what the future will bring. We all just have to remember one thing, once you give up your virginity, you can never get it back. You only get one shot.
So what did you think of Suwi’s latest post? Everyone remembers their first time right? So thinking back to however far back, (or however recent) that was, answer us this: Do you regret giving it up? Or was it all that you wanted? If you had the possibility to take back your first time back and do it over – would you? Drop us a comment and let us know….
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